Question by Ryan: What in the world to do about low self-esteem? Advice on how to improve appearance? Because I hate myself.?
Uh, be forewarned… This is going to be pretty long. All of my questions are. So please, don’t reply if you don’t read everything. Not that asking that is going to make any difference. I always get the people who think they’re right-up comedians saying things like “omg lol thumbs up if you didn’t read this losers rant hahahahaha omfg”.
Assuming you believe in all that. Because apparently, there’s quite a few people out there who don’t think that “self-esteem” is real.
Anyway, in this context, I don’t mean self-esteem in terms of all-around confidence, public speaking abilities, whatever. I use the term self-esteem here in regards to my physical appearance, as opposed to mental and emotional makeup. Because I’m quite confident when it comes to my intellectual abilities, but with my looks? Whoa. I can hardly pass a mirror by without looking into it, and trust me when I say that I’m not doing it out of arrogance!
The ups and downs my confidence takes is probably the worst thing about my little psychological issue here. Some days I’ll be feeling quite good about myself, and how I look, the next day I’ll wish that I had enough money for a facial reconstruction. I’m constantly moving back and forth in front of mirrors, seeing how good (or bad) I look from different distances. I actually (usually) really like how I look within a few feet of mirrors, looking head-on, but if I move back too far, it starts to look worse, especially from the side. I don’t know why, but it makes me quite angry, as well as depressive.
The thing I hate most about myself is my neck. I feel that it’s unnaturally long (especially for a guy), skinny, and has a bulging Adam’s Apple. Because of it, coupled with a relatively sharp, angular jawline, I think I look either like a rat, or like a little kid from the side. Ugh. Everybody on here and in real life tells me that most girls don’t care about looks so much as opposed to personality, but viagra prices I have a hard time believing it. I mean, nobody tells me that I’m ugly or anything (haven’t heard that once since middle school, I don’t think), but it sure looks that way when I look into the mirror. Especially from a distance, as I said.
I just took over 300 pictures in the course of one hour for a stupid art project, trying to get one that I felt actually looked good. I ended up with five, maybe six pictures I actually liked. That’s kind of sad, but it’s just the way I am, I suppose.
Here’s a few pictures of me, if it makes any difference – I’m not fishing for compliments. I just want to know how I can make myself look better (hairstyles, whatever; these are all pretty recent, by the way):
That how to get cialis without prescription last picture was just so that you know I’m not overweight or anything. Credit union location Wisconsin Oshkosh Oshkosh Postal Employees Credit Union I’ve got a pretty weird expression on my face – just ignore that. =)
Keep in mind that those are all my idea of “good” pictures. Take notice of the fact that virtually none of them are side-angle shorts, or pictures of me in profile. Because, as said, I totally hate how I look from the side. I think I’d be so much better looking if it weren’t for my hair always being so uncooperative, my neck levitra online being so long, and my jawline so screwed up.
I’ve come a long way, appearance-wise, since middle school and even my freshman year (if I didn’t say already, I’m only sixteen and a half, junior in high school, which I hate). I don’t know if I’ll keep getting better looking as I get older, or if I’ll just be stuck like this for the next few years. I really want to know if there’s any way that I can make my neck thicker… Really, any advice on how I can make myself look better would be appreciated. diflucan online pharmacy
I know I’m a bit obsessive about this kind of thing. Unhealthily so, for sure. But walking down the street, through the hallways at school, in the mall, I always feel rather out of place. I feel as if I’m somehow different from everybody. With ninety percent of the people out there, guys especially (I’m str
straight, but I do compare myself with other guys), I can always see apparent physical traits that could be considered attractive, ones that I lack, or that overpower mine. It sucks. I’m pretty tired of feeling like a loser. I’ve never had a girlfriend (wonder if it’s because of my looks, or because of the whole “confidence” thing ) when everybody else my age has, even the REALLY creepy kids. I’m not naive enough to believe that high school romance actually goes anywhere, but it would be nice just to know somebody is actually attracted to me, lol.
Yeah. I don’t want to get off subject here. I’ll close off with a reiteration – any advice, any comments, and suggestions to help me improve my physical appearance, or any ways to boost my self-esteem/confidence would be nice.
Two pages on MicroSoft word. I should write whine-novels.
On a completely unrelated note (assuming anybody even bothers reading this), I’m finding it sort of amusing that my own question is in the list of questions that Yahoo! Answers suggests that I answer.
Bee Dee, I answered your question yesterday. O_o
Answer by Bee Dee
I think that you will continue to get more attractive as you get older (not that you arent right now) so don’t give up hope just yet on that. I also think you shouldn’t be so conservative! Smile, and show the world who you are. It sound SO cliche, I know, but honestly I think that personality often overshadows appearance.
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